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its no excuse
By Pam
I have read a lot of stories from this site and wanted to add my 2 cents worth.
I have been married for 22 years now and like most woman have pain, irritability, and so one. The only way my husband knows that its my time of the month is when hes not getting any. I keep my pain, irritablity, and disconfort to myself. Why would someone be so mean to someone they are suppost to love and care for. If I can't control by behavior than I am the one that needs help, so ladies be nice.
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Amen By Jessica B. @ 4/23/09 7:23:32 PM
I agree. Just because I gt my cramps doesn't mean I should treat people like trash.
Not necessarily... By Ericka @ 4/28/09 1:43:22 PM
You have to remember though, that the irritabilty that comes with PMS is a result of hormonal and chemical changes and imbalances that we women cannot control. Try as we may to keep a happy disposition, hormones dictate the way we react to our environment. Although, I agree that we should not be "mean" to people because of this, we have very little control to chemical reactions in our body. I simply choose to keep to myself during this time of the month and give out warnings to people not to bother me.
Try telling a post-partum mother that her behavior and mental state are controllable and she has no excuse for feeling the way she does.
Yes but don't say it By Rag Timer @ 4/29/09 1:56:47 PM
Once I told my wife, that just because she had PMS it was no excuse to be mean and disrespectful to people. Man, did I catch hell for that one!
come on By mamba @ 4/29/09 10:05:18 PM
if most of us knew we were being ugly in sure we wouldnt! i mean who wants the whole world to know? sometimes being "mean" isnt on purpose.
Seriously?! By Lover @ 4/30/09 2:09:23 PM
You do realize that hormones affect every single person differently, right?
As for it not being an excuse to be mean... it's really not.
But... let me ask you something, men.
Have you ever been kicked in the balls?
You know that feeling you get in your stomach that hurts like hell?
Well, it's almost equal to the pain we feel in our bladders.
So lets see you smile and stay positive during this pain.
I know a friend of mine who has cramps so bad sometimes that she vomits when the cramps start.
So keep this in mind.
To all that responded. By Pam @ 5/11/09 9:28:47 PM
There is a big difference between PMS and Postpartum. Postpartum is a form of clinical depression, PMS is not. Hormonal and chemical changes and imbalances that we women cannot control as you said can be controlled some what. I didn't mean that woman need help in the scene that there is something mentally wrong with them, I meant help from a doctor. I experience a lot of pain myself each month, but I feel better when my husband wants to be around me, so he can help if he can, rather than pissing him off and making us both more miserable. I also want to add that caffeine can cause a lot of problems for woman, by exaggerating the symptoms of PMS. Rag Timer...sorry
Pam, shove it By Pillmistress @ 5/16/09 11:21:24 PM
You're probably not exactly an angel. I bet you cry during a hallmark commercial or two right before your period. So what if some girls get crabby along with it?
Honestly... By Vicky @ 5/19/09 7:31:31 AM
Honestly I'm kinda the same way... I like to grin and deal with it. My boyfriend is very good about it though, he'll lay with me, bring me breakfast in bed... all sweet things. He knows that i'm in pain and he wants to help me in anyway he can. And generally it's other people i have problems with... friends that just annoy the living hell out of me when i'm on my period...
You Are My Kind Of Woman By Big Dick @ 5/19/09 9:12:50 PM
Fuck Yeah, I wish that every chick had your attitude.
Please By Please @ 5/19/09 10:53:22 PM
Look, you probably have a hubby that has his own calendar. I just found out about this site now, but have been tracking pms for a while and it serves me well. So while you don't have confrontations or heavy emotional battles with your husband, it may not be because you are so controlled, but rather he has timed when to keep his mouth shut.
OK? By WWA @ 5/29/09 12:42:24 PM
I hate to deflate your HAPPY LIL PMS BUBBLE Pam, but I have to admit, when Im on the rag, and someone makes a comment to me that will set me off, you better bet I cannot stop the mean things I will say!! I usually tell my hubby to stay away for the week or not to bring up anything that I WILL take personnally and I try my best to be nice but when the hormones and mother nature's in control, I cannot control the bitch in me!! And when he's on his man cycle, which is a week after mine...(Men Do Have Cycles ladies)....he sounds like a crabby ol man who just found out he had to have his dick wacked off!! Thats when I give him his space!! So as far as BEING NICE to the guy, give me a break Pam, what kind of painkillers are you on??lol
true By Lo Lo @ 7/14/09 7:32:36 AM
I agree and it is something we as women must be aware of.Some months are worse than others,but u have to put forth the effort if u really love ur family :)
Ha ha ha ha By Nunya @ 7/20/09 9:19:44 PM
Pam... your a dumb ass!! Hate to be the bearer of bad news for ya. But you were gonna have to hear it sooner or later. You probably have to keep all your shit bottled up cause if you say anything out of line to your dick husband... he will either probably beat your ass or some shit. So your pitiful. Watch out, you might get in trouble for being on the computer too long. So, Pam...keep that in mind. K? Oh, and your 2 cents wasnt worth half that.
Well arent you the lucky one? By Trisha @ 7/22/09 2:05:58 PM
Pam - you obviously suffer from a PMS that I envy - one that is controllable. I am female and have many female friends and family, and I know that each of us women has a different severity of PMS. YOU are apparently on the low-end of symptoms and should probably keep your opinion to yourself, moving forward.
Have you any idea what it feels like to go from being a completely normal, happy, level, understanding, hopeful and patient person to turning into a complete basket-case, over-emotional, severely depressed, up and down, hot flashes, suicidal thoughts, complete and utter hopelessness fills every minute of your day - THEN to begin bleeding heavily, passing clots, horribly painful cramping, etc. all of that suffering to FLASH - one day it completely disappears and you are normal again. It is a gut-wrenching, helpless cycle in which so many women suffer, including myself.
It appears to me that you havent a clue what PMS feels like. So you get a little short-tempered and have a couple cramps.... I could only WISH I had it as easy as you.
Why are you even on this site? Apparently you have no CLUE what real PMS disparity is.
Sure.... By Three Days @ 10/21/09 12:25:33 PM
I used to be the same way. Thought the rest of the world was full of crazy, out of control women.
But now my PMS is getting worse. I don't just get cranky at people in my life...I am having suicidal thoughts, grief, anxiety, etc. It's like this whole other person (who seriously needs medications) pops out her ugly head for 1-3 days then just suddenly vanishes again.
I cannot begin to describe how bad it makes me feel physically, mentally and emotionally-- nor how guilty and confused I feel afterward for having displayed such emotions.
And yet I hear worse stories everyday about women slapping or throwing things...
I just feel so confused.
VICKY By Three Days @ 10/21/09 12:43:28 PM
That would be SO nice if my boyfriend was even 1/2 that understanding. Instead he just thinks women are crazy and that I am being a tweaker.
He can't even give me a few moments of space to myself. If I try to read for 20 minutes he tells me I should be doing something useful. I feel like I can't unwind even for a moment...let alone get some understanding when I feel crappy.
evil eve By babb's @ 5/16/11 11:31:39 AM
When pms comes for me I feel that I need locked in a room and left a lone. For I am mean and it's not because I want to be I am generally a real nice person that is very passive but during pms I am evil I try really hard to fuction like normal but I really can't control it and I always feel horrible with guilt after it is gone.Would love to change it and yes i get all the cramping,headaches, bloating, vomitting it is bye no means nice. So anyone with susgestions on how to make it with out being mean let me know caused I would love to be able to control how it makes me feel. It is like a 1 80 for me as a person. To be mean is not fun so y would u assume it is cause we want it to be just to make or family and friends hate us? That is crazy!
dont judge By Bad pms @ 6/8/11 5:08:54 AM
Hi,
Like every one here i have got bad pms following very painfull period. some woman lucky enought not to have these kind of seviour symptoms.
During the last week before my period always really difficult, i dont get so angry but i get very emotional and cry a lot. It took some time for my mum to understand this during my teen years. Even after i know i suffer with pms its never easy to control(i would say impossible) the behaviour. I have been unlucky in the way that i always had a man(as a brother, or x-husband) who give me reason to cry. Now as i dont have anyone in my life and live alone, during my bad pms time i remember every bad incident happen to me to cry duing that time. i really wish i dont have to go thru this every month!!!!!!!!!
Its cost me my partner By kerry @ 7/30/11 1:42:03 AM
Just reading your comments helped to know that I am not on my own with PMS.I never got any support from my partner just evil words of me been a "nutter".I could see I had problems but for some reason did not do anything about it,and now he has left me.But I am keeping my chin up cos its part of been a woman and us ladies can put a reason to our moods swings!!
Ms By Patricia Warren @ 1/26/12 3:20:04 AM
I have suffered PMS most of my life. My periods started at 10 so any bad behaviour leading up to that had me labelled as a difficult child. Lo and behold the reason I was so snappy was because I was about to start so not my fault I didn't even know that PMS existed at that age. Now at 56 it is still with me, it is being looked into more because it is spoiling quality of life. However I don't apologise for the mood swings I've discovered that normally I would have ignored the attitudes and manners of other people but at that time I become more sensitive and react more so to my way of thinking they probably deserved it.
MISOGYNIST WOMEN? By FEMINIST BITCH @ 7/26/12 4:34:11 PM
I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU SAID THAT. THAT'S IS SO SEXIST AND ANTI-WOMAN. IT'S A WOMAN'S RIGHT TO ACT HOWEVER THE FUCK SHE WANTS NO MATTER WHAT TIME OF THE MONTH IT IS. I BET YOU'RE A FUCKING REPUBLICAN.
Selfish By Angry @ 10/12/12 3:55:33 AM
How the fuck is it your god given right to abuse your partners husbands children family during this pms time of the month and risk destroying marriages relationships because you are to selfish
To try to help yourself exsersise good diet
vitamin b
Instead of sitting on the couch eating mc Donald's and stuffing your face with chocolate
Instead pushing relationships to the limit because you have pms
You are right how the hell would your husband get
He doesn't have pms
He has other stresses paying bills mortgage supporting you and your kids
Mr Nice Guy By Why the hate? @ 1/28/13 10:36:00 AM
Seriously, everyone on this blog seems to have all the answers...Yet, here you are! It has become common place to sit behind a keyboard and blast people for anything. Read any comment on YouTube. Step back, be the better person and try to be respectful. In the end, if you don't have something constructive to say, don't say it!
OOOwwwww By Fran @ 4/8/13 6:04:29 PM
I have endometriosis(growths that grow in and around the uterus) and I have PDD(Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder). The disorder makes a mental issue the women may have(Bi-Polar for me) even worse.... is that an excuse for being moody? The pain I experience along with it.... ahhhh...... the worst. My doctor gave me BIG pain killers and they still just take the edge off. I'm out of work for almost a week every other month(very irregular periods) My husbands lets me squeeze his hand when I'm curled up in bed, He takes my crazy pms shit like a champ. I think... I get to act however I would like.... just saying. Even though it's mostly just intense crying and pain during this time anyway lol
Accountable for your actions By It's never my fault @ 5/10/13 8:50:32 AM
It's selfish and stupid and arrogant to deny any responsibility for your actions just because of PMS. If you are a bitch and you end up in jail, the law won't let PMS be an excuse, and neither should ANYONE ELSE. It's NOT OK for you to act insane on PMS! "but you don't understand, it's not my fault and I can't control it" Learn self control, or go fuck yourselves.