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Why we Deny
By Every Woman
Alright boys, you want to know why we deny having PMS?
When a woman is upset (whether it's justified or not), all she wants is to be taken seriously. I always tell my husband, "You don't have to understand *why* I'm upset, just express that you're sorry that I *am* upset."
When a man asks, "Do you have PMS?", he is really asking, "Do I need to take you seriously right now?" It minimizes a woman's pain to imply that her concerns aren't worth considering if you can write it off as PMS.
Men, for the love of god, DON'T ASK! And even if you *know* that it's "just PMS", that doesn't mean that your woman isn't really hurting, frustrated, and upset! She still is!
Women do realize, in retrospect, that they may have overreacted. This may be why some will approach their man later and say, "I'm sorry, I was PMSing." But as a woman, knowing that you are currently experiencing PMS doesn't ease anger or frustration or emotional pain. It just provides a reason for it.
Men, you will get through this difficult time of the month in MUCH better shape if you take your woman's thoughts and feelings seriously. And remember - you don't have to apologize for your behavior, just apologize for how it made her feel - EVEN if that wasn't your intention.
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Yes, but . . By Lucky Guy @ 3/5/10 6:18:49 AM
All true and very good points. I do, hosever have one thing to add.
Ladies, please don't use the 'I was PMSing' as the catch all to get out of times that you were just in a bad mood. Sometimes, it helps the guys if you just admit, you were wrong.